Boundaries Blogs

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Embracing Balance: Understanding Masculine and Feminine Energy Through Yin and Yang — Ever felt out of sync with yourself? In this post I map Yin and Yang to masculine and feminine energy, explain why caree
You Don’t Have to Be Fully Healed to Love Again — Forget the "heal yourself first" rule. I explain how to love while healing with real practical guidance for dating while
Surrogate Partner Therapy: When Talking Is Not Enough — Ever felt stuck when talk therapy stops helping? In this post I describe Surrogate Partner Therapy and why experiential
5 Steps To Stop Being A People Pleaser: Nice Guy Syndrome 101 — Sick of being the nice guy who never gets what he wants? In this post I offer five practical steps to stop being a peopl
So You Want to Play with Power - Part I — Curious about power play but not sure where to start? I explain what kink and power exchange really mean, share benefits
Power Play in Practice - Part II — Want safer, more satisfying power play? I walk you through practical negotiation skills for kinky power play, covering y
Lovebombing: Take Cover From This Troubling Dating Trend — Feel like it's too good to be true? I explain what is lovebombing and point out signs of lovebombing, from nonstop compl
Caretaker Sex 101 — Feeling like sex has become a duty? I unpack caretaker sex, why one-sided sex happens, how perimenopause can shift desir
Spicing Up Your Friends With Benefits: Navigating Boundaries for More Fun, Better Sex, and Respect — Want better sex without the drama? I walk you through practical friends with benefits boundaries and how to set boundari
Introduction to Setting Boundaries That Feel Good and Work — Ready for a tough love boundary reset? I walk you through how to set boundaries that feel good and work, with practical
“You Don’t Trust Me” vs. “I Don’t Feel Safe”: How Relationship Anxiety Gets Mislabeled as Control — Ever been told "you're controlling" when all you wanted was safety? In this post I untangle "You don't trust me" versus
Choosing Monogamy After Trauma: Rebuilding Trust, Safety, and Desire on Your Terms — Want monogamy that actually supports healing after betrayal or abuse? In this post I show how to choose monogamy after t
The Conscious Monogamist’s Guide to Saying No Without Losing Connection — Want to say no without losing closeness? I offer a conscious monogamy toolkit that reframes no as care, with practical s
Sexual Healing: How to talk to new partners about old wounds — Talking to a new partner about past sexual trauma is possible. In this post I offer therapist backed tips, drawn from my
Broken Trust: How to Move Forward Together — Feeling betrayed and unsure how to move forward? I lay out clear steps to rebuild trust after betrayal, from grieving wh
Trump Trauma | How His Narcissism Reopens Old Wounds — When his voice makes my chest tighten it is more than political annoyance. I trace that fury to a rage oholic father and
Radical Self-Love: Transform Your Intimacy — Want better sex and deeper connection? In this post I walk through radical self-love practices that improve intimacy and
Dirty Talk Q&A: How to communicate what you want and how you want it — Want to speak up in the bedroom without the cringe? My Dirty Talk Q&A answers real reader questions with practical sex c
What is resentment and how can you avoid it? — Ever notice the same arguments replaying in your relationship? In this post I define what is resentment and how to avoid
Why A Sex-Positive Lifestyle Matters - Especially Now — What if sex-positivity was a lifestyle, not a slogan? I unpack why a sex-positive lifestyle matters now, from consent an
Relationship Red Flags : What makes a relationship “toxic?” — Worried your relationship feels wrong? I walk through 23 relationship red flags and common toxic relationship signs, fro
How to Stop Parenting Your Partner — Feeling like you're parenting your partner? I explain how to stop parenting your partner, why that pattern forms from pe
How to Navigate a Breakup — Feeling like the world fell away after a breakup? In this honest therapist post I tell my own recent breakup story and o
Sex Ed is Important to All Your Relationships, Not Just Sexual Ones — Think sex ed is only for dating? I argue sex education for all relationships matters for friendships, family, work and y
Ghostlighting Red Flags & Tips: Where Ghosting Meets Gaslighting — Ever had someone vanish then insist it never happened? In this post I name ghostlighting red flags and explain where gho
What Is Cuffing Season? How To Do It With Integrity — Curious about cuffing season and doing it with integrity? I explain what cuffing season means and offer cuffing season t
Help! I walked inn on my Child Masturbating - What should I do? — Walked in on your child masturbating and felt panicked? I guide parents through calm, age appropriate responses with fiv
After Sexual Assault: Navigating Dating and Intimacy — Reclaiming intimacy is possible after assault. In this post I offer compassionate, practical tips for dating after sexua
Why Consent Can Help Prevent Sexual Assault — What if talking about consent can prevent sexual assault? As a 17 year old in Maplewood I asked classmates how consent c
When You Don't Like Their Partner — Ever felt uneasy when your teen's partner shows up at dinner? In this post I lay out the Big Five guiding principles for
“Please Don’t Touch My Baby” on Building Consent into a Child’s Life from Day One — When a stranger reaches to stroke my baby's cheek I tell them please don't touch my baby. I explain how we build consent
Massage Practice — A routine practice session with a friend training to be a yoni masseuse turns into a candid yoni massage practice and se
Swiping with Agency: Beating Dating App Fatigue — Feeling burned out by endless swiping? As a New York City couples therapist at the Center for Love and Sex, my post expl
I’ve Fallen Back In Love With My Friend And I Don’t Know What To Do! — Ever fallen back in love with a friend and froze? I answer a reader letter from an autistic, late-blooming lesbian who r
What Do I Do When I Know My Date Is Lying To Me ? — What do you do when you know your date is lying to you? I recount Hinge stories where men hid marriages, kids, AI photos
When Is It Time To STOP Asking Someone Out? — Ever been flirted with nonstop and still never get a date? My Amanda story lays out electric chemistry, spicy texts and
Privacy vs Transparency in Relationships: How to Get on the Same Page — Wondering where to draw the line between privacy and transparency in relationships? In this post I walk through clear ex
Technology Use for Sexual Communication in BDSM Relationships — Two studies show how people in kink use technology for sexual communication in BDSM relationships, from consenting over
Your partner is kissed by another. Would you want to know? — What would you do if your partner was kissed by another? In this post I lay out three schools of thought on whether to t
Guys, women do not want unsolicited dick pics. How hard is this to grasp?! — Unsolicited dick pics are not compliments, they are boundary violations. I call out why men keep sending them, tell the
You don’t know me and I don’t know you — You don't know me. In this post I unpack why the honesty and intimacy I offer online can feel real yet is mostly one-sid
How will you please your Master? — A cheeky answer nearly earned me a whack. In this personal BDSM story I recount a morning with my Master, a bratty impul
Shameless — Sick of feeling judged? I explain how I became shameless, why slut-shaming says more about them than you, and simple ste
A Bad Week for Men — A candid account of a boundary violation on a date and the gaslighting that followed. I recount a real-life consent stor
The Super Powered Yes/No/Maybe List — Tired of awkward, vague sex talks? This post walks through my Super Powered Yes/No/Maybe List, a downloadable kink negot
Advice for New Dominants from Experienced Submissives — Curious what submissives wish new Dominants knew? I collected hundreds of femdom subs' responses and compiled a 13 page
Navigating a New D/s Dynamic: Guidance for Both Submissives and Dominants — New to D/s? I help you navigate a new D/s dynamic with practical guidance for submissives and dominants, covering vanill
Are Female Lifestyle Dominants Mean? — Surprising truth: female lifestyle dominants are often loving, not mean. I recount how my boi expected a stern dominatri
Mandatory Skills — Want to avoid dangerous mistakes in BDSM? In this post I lay out why communication skills for kink beginners and honesty
That Time I Pissed In My Boyfriend’s Mouth — A surprising confession, I peed in my boyfriend's mouth and that watersports moment reshaped how I think about consent,